My answers for best marriage advice might be a tad bit unconventional, but the more and more I thought about it, the more I couldn't decide between the two things that came to mind: (1) be silly, and (2) the importance of "cuddling" with your spouse!
Recently, I saw this quote and absolutely fell in love with it:
This quote kind of summarizes BOTH of my marriage advices!
Let's start with #1: BE SILLY
Life is too serious for you to incorporate too much seriousness in your marriage as well! Evan and I make a HUGE point in our life to have fun and be silly. Yes, we obviously accomplish a lot, but we love to sit back and be silly as well. We laugh together... ALL the time. There is NEVER a quiet moment in our household.
I don't think there is EVER a day that we aren't cracking up together over a dorky comment someone made, or because we're rolling around with Liliana all tickling each other. Being silly involves things such as mentioning HOW MUCH we have to do and deciding spontaneously to go out to Target and waste an hour instead.
This? We do this all the time. We'll be on our way to run an errand and one of us will say "yumm...cupcake..." and before you know it, we've gone to our favorite cupcake shop, had a great time, and didn't run our errand. Being silly.
It keeps your love FRESH and at the end of the day, it's simply FUN. Marriage should be FUN!!!
NOW cover your eyes if you don't want to read #2: cuddle time
Now I'm not going to get in to too many details here at all...my main point with this one is that couples need to take the time to be together, just them two and I think this falls to the wayside when children and more stress come in to the picture! I know life gets stressful, trust me, my husband works approximately 95 hours a week...but you surely have 30 minutes to at the VERY LEAST cuddle without distractions getting in the way.
The best part about the intimacy It's truly the ONLY time in the day where it's just YOU TWO. You aren't looking at your cell phone, or checking your email, or worrying about the kids. It's just you two. So when things get stressful later, you can look back at those moments and don't get as upset with each other because you know that you guys do indeed have a true connection. This connection should be SUCH a priority. Sure sometimes you can't just be lying in bed intertwined all day long because you have things to do, but sometimes when you can, cuddle for hours! It's the best!
Like I said earlier, I know I've only been married for over 4 years (together for almost 10) but those 4 years have been filled with things that could break many couples ... we both endured law school and medical school, we had a baby, and we have been in debt our entire marriage, but we are so very happy to be married. We NEVER fight over money, we have fun together, we "cuddle" lots and lots, and we respect each other (we both think the other person is the smarter person in the relationship...something my Dad always says is key to marriage and he's been married for 40 years, so I'll take that advice!).
I can honestly say that marriage, for me, has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I adore my husband and am so fortunate to have him as my best friend. He is, by far, my favorite person in the world.