Friday, July 22, 2011

My Best Marriage Advice

This Friday at Kelly's Korner is share your best marriage advice.  I have only been married for a little over 4 years so I'm aware I'm not an expert.  However, I didn't see a caveat that said we could only contribute if we had been married for over 20, so here goes.

My answers for best marriage advice might be a tad bit unconventional, but the more and more I thought about it, the more I couldn't decide between the two things that came to mind: (1) be silly, and (2) the importance of "cuddling" with your spouse!

Recently, I saw this quote and absolutely fell in love with it:

This quote kind of summarizes BOTH of my marriage advices!    

Let's start with #1: BE SILLY

Life is too serious for you to incorporate too much seriousness in your marriage as well!  Evan and I make a HUGE point in our life to have fun and be silly.  Yes, we obviously accomplish a lot, but we love to sit back and be silly as well.  We laugh together... ALL the time.  There is NEVER a quiet moment in our household.

I don't think there is EVER a day that we aren't cracking up together over a dorky comment someone made, or because we're rolling around with Liliana all tickling each other.  Being silly involves things such as mentioning HOW MUCH we have to do and deciding spontaneously to go out to Target and waste an hour instead.

This?  We do this all the time.  We'll be on our way to run an errand and one of us will say "yumm...cupcake..." and before you know it, we've gone to our favorite cupcake shop, had a great time, and didn't run our errand.  Being silly. 

It keeps your love FRESH and at the end of the day, it's simply FUN.  Marriage should be FUN!!!

NOW cover your eyes if you don't want to read #2: cuddle time

Now I'm not going to get in to too many details here at main point with this one is that couples need to take the time to be together, just them two and I think this falls to the wayside when children and more stress come in to the picture! I know life gets stressful, trust me, my husband works approximately 95 hours a week...but you surely have 30 minutes to at the VERY LEAST cuddle without distractions getting in the way.

The best part about the intimacy  It's truly the ONLY time in the day where it's just YOU TWO.  You aren't looking at your cell phone, or checking your email, or worrying about the kids.  It's just you two.  So when things get stressful later, you can look back at those moments and don't get as upset with each other because you know that you guys do indeed have a true connection.  This connection should be SUCH a priority.  Sure sometimes you can't just be lying in bed intertwined all day long because you have things to do, but sometimes when you can, cuddle for hours!  It's the best!

Like I said earlier, I know I've only been married for over 4 years (together for almost 10) but those 4 years have been filled with things that could break many couples ... we both endured law school and medical school, we had a baby, and we have been in debt our entire marriage, but we are so very happy to be married.  We NEVER fight over money, we have fun together, we "cuddle" lots and lots, and we respect each other (we both think the other person is the smarter person in the relationship...something my Dad always says is key to marriage and he's been married for 40 years, so I'll take that advice!).

I can honestly say that marriage, for me, has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.  I adore my husband and am so fortunate to have him as my best friend.  He is, by far, my favorite person in the world.


  1. great post! i agree with all of your advice!

  2. Hi! I love your advice! My Hubby and I are so very silly so much of the time that we barely have time to fight:)

  3. Thanks so much for stopping by...

    AND for your great advise too. We have so much to learn from eachother as wives and mothers in the trenches of life lessons!

  4. May your and husband continue to be blessed with a good life together!

  5. I love your advice, I think it's all so true. You guys seem to be a great couple together. You hear about so many couples who don't get along that well so I love hearing about the couples that are still living happily ever after.

  6. I found your blog via Kelly's and love this advice. So very true. A new follower, too!

  7. That's great advice! I usually tell other people not to take themselves too seriously, which can tie into being silly :o)

  8. You are so right about the silliness. I think a lot of people view marriage as this heavy, serious thing that will suck the silliness out of your life. That kind of thinking always makes me sad. :(